Do you know Helice Bridges? She’s worth knowing!

helice-bridgesI met Helice Bridges in the early 90′s at T Harv Eker’s first Street Smart Business School (my first weekend seminar). During the weekend, Helice gave me my first of many “blue ribbons” in a quick but life changing “who you are makes a difference” ceremony. I’ve crossed paths with Helice many times over the past 15 years and she is always walking her talk, demonstrating and practicing what she preaches. All the time.

To find out what Helice does, watch this video on one of her websites: www.blueribbonmovie.com. You’ll be glad you did….

When I think about the people that died in James Arthur Ray’s Spiritual Warrior Seminar, I wonder what would have happened had they met Helice Bridges before meeting James Ray. What would have happened if someone from their lives had met Helice and presented them with a “Who You Are Makes A Difference” Ribbon in a simple and heart felt ceremony of acknowledgment and love?

We will never know… It’s the holiday season. Tell the people you know you love them and “Who They Are Makes A Difference”. Especially the children and parents you know…

Meet Helice Bridges:

James Arthur Ray’s Law of Gender is Making Me Crazy

James Arthur Ray Made Million$ Before killing 3 people in Sedona.

pat-snl-movieOne of the ways he made his millions was authoring  programs like The $cience of $uccess. From his website, The $cience of $uccess is billed as: (copy and pasted straight from the website)

The Science of Success
is the key to living The Secret…

As you master The Science of Success, you’ll automatically apply the same laws of achievement used by the world’s most successful people.

I’m going to let you in on a little-known secret… A lot of the most wealthy and famous people in the world would rather you not know this.

Now, come closer and pay attention because here it is…

  • Most of the truly successful people you meet are not any smarter than you…
  • They’re not any more gifted than you…
  • They’re not any luckier than you…
  • And they don’t work any harder than you.

In this program Ray talks about his 7 Laws that will deliver the promises above. When I listened to this program (yes, I am a student and practitioner of New Age & The Secret) Ray talked about the Law of Gender. What I heard was Yin/Yang, Masculine/Feminine,  good/bad. Not original, but interesting to consider as I wait to see what charges, if any, will be filed against James Ray. Ray’s responses to the first civil suits should be due this week also….

As I wait (which is feminine), I notice that there is a peaceful knowing that regardless of what happens, it is perfect. It has to be, because it happened. 1,000 years from now it will be 3009. and what difference will any of this make? (As a side note, I read somewhere that James Ray wanted his message and his mission to still be around in a thousand years). Waiting, patience and acceptance are not virtues. My basic personality is “driver/dominant” or results oriented. Through my years of meditation practice, I am more adept with patience (well as long as it doesn’t take too long).

When I’m not patiently waiting, I’m plotting and planning the next actions in my “Seminar Company Reform” campaign. This is masculine and testosterone based. Again in 3009, what difference will it make if Seminars and Coaches Licensed and Regulated? Any, none… Hmmm. I’ve often wished I was a guy who got my joy and pleasure from sitting in front of the TV watching sports. But not me, NO, I have to set out to change the damn world.

The person who taught me meditation used to say “Our life span is nothing more than a pimple on the ass of time.” Even if I live to be 120 (which James Arthur Ray says is possible), the pimple is still so insignificant as to not even be classified as the tiniest of boils. So what difference does all this make? Simply this, that people maybe able to understand their true nature. Which is Perfection. Even James Arthur Ray is an example of Perfection. His actions killed and hurt other people which doesn’t work, but he is, you are, and I am perfect, exactly as we are and exactly as we are not. The only problem is we are often the last person to recognize and accept our individual perfection. Otherwise there would be no need for war, personal development seminars or self-help books… Until then, it’s buyer beware when considering a Seminar to solve your life problems.

James Arthur Ray Seminars: A Gang for the Middle Class

Another Reason I Blog About James Arthur Ray Killing 3 People in a Seminar

I’ve been healing a case of PSSD or Post Seminar Stress Disorder (no, it’s not PiSSeD). PSSD is Seminar Induced PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder). I’m sure that I’m not the first to coin this phrase, but I could not find any other reference for PSSD. So maybe I have coined a term.

Blogging about James Ray and the seminar industry business practices I want to see changed is been healing and cathartic for me.

It seems that Seminar Communities fill the same need in Middle Class folks as Gangs fill for Poor People in the Inner City.

Stress-ZebraStripesIt wasn’t until after I quit the seminar industry in 2007 that I realized how much stress I put myself through. I was numb and felt dead. I was a good student and always worked and tried harder, but the harder I tried the worse I got. After decompressing in early 2008, I realized how far astray I was from my true feelings, beliefs and core values. I made big mistakes in judgment in my business, financial and my personal life.

The “results at any cost” mantra that pervades many personal growth and transformational seminars had me seeking “creative solutions” to problems that only existed because of a “weed of discontent” some where inside. I could never quite pull all the roots of this weed. The seminars added water and fertilizer to this part of me and helped it grow uncontrollably promising the next seminar, book, program held the answer. To say that differently, I wanted to belong, be loved, accepted, make a difference and feel powerful. I wanted these things very badly and I got disconnected from my voice of reason and knowing. I was running intuitively blind.

It’s funny. There’s one Seminar where you’re encouraged to be “Unreasonable”. But for me,  acting without reason is running without my internal radar system.

Here’s what I realized when I got out of the Seminar Rat Race:

  • I prefer places of quietude and peace.
  • I have all the answers I need, if my mind is quiet enough to hear.
  • There’s nothing in the world I will take with me other than my memories.
  • If I think I know what’s best for anyone else, I AM WRONG!
  • Life is more than a “dash” on a tombstone.
  • Love is the answer to everything.
  • Love starts and ends with me and I can share my love with the world.
  • Life is too short to drink bad wine and deal with a**holes.
  • For those that don’t “get it”, they will… In time and On time.
  • There are only 3 questions and now I know their answers (for me that is).

That’s it. I have a simple life. I develop websites to help business owners make money (no seminar companies yet). I Enjoy being with my wife and watching my granddaughter grow up.  I am happy!

James Arthur Ray’s Lawsuit Responses Due as Criminal Charges Get Closer

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James Arthur Ray’s Response to the first civil lawsuits due this week.

The first civil lawsuits were filed against James Arthur Ray at the end of October. Civil Lawsuits require an Answer or Response be filed with the Court within 30 days. From what I’ve heard, Ray has hired some of the best lawyers in the Country to defend him. His response to the Civil Suits will be the first meaningful communication made by Ray or his people since killing 3 people in Sedona on October 8.

I’m sure that Ray’s legal team has used the very best legal endoscope to examine Ray’s every nook and cranny in order to defend their client. Here’s a sample of the types of things that may have been examined by James Ray’s new best friends (that money can buy):

  • Insurance policies reviewed.
  • Contracts with Angel Valley.
  • Who built what.
  • Who supplied materials to build the death lodge.
  • Confidentiality Agreements.
  • Non-disclosure agreements.
  • Arizona Law.
  • What happened at past events (injuries & deaths).
  • JRI’s event manuals, practices & policies.
  • “Waivers of Liability” & Disclosures signed by customers.
  • James Rays “credentials” to run sweat lodges and vision quests.
  • Ray has probably undergone Psychological Exams.
  • Results of James Ray’s team of investigators.

Ray’s Lawyers, after reviewing all this and working closely with Ray’s Director of “Ooooops” Megan Fredricksen (Megan reportedly ran JRI), will file Ray’s legal response this week. Ray’s response will be the first public statement by Ray and will reveal who they are blaming for the deaths in Sedona. Angel Valley will be certainly be counter sued and anyone else they feel will misdirect attention away from Ray, their client. My prediction is that Ray, et al. will put everyone on trial, including the victims in their response.

Immediately after Ray’s Civil Responses are due, the State of Arizona will be filing Criminal Charges if any against Ray.

James Arthur Ray – Murder by Numbers

JRI – Best Theme Song for 2009: Murder by Numbers

James Ray Will Get Answers

James Ray: Murder by Numbers

Written by Sting & Andy Summers

Once that you’ve decided on a killing
First you make a stone of your heart
And if you find that your hands are still willing
Then you can turn a murder into art

There really isn’t any need for bloodshed
You just do it with a little more finesse
If you can slip a tablet into someone’s coffee
Then it avoids an awful lot of mess

It’s murder by numbers, one, two, three
It’s as easy to learn as your ABC
Murder by numbers, one, two, three
It’s as easy to learn as your ABC

Now if you have a taste for this experience
And you’re flushed with your very first success
Then you must try a twosome or a threesome
And you’ll find your conscience bothers you much less

Because murder is like anything you take to
It’s a habit-forming need for more and more
You can bump off every member of your family
And anybody else you find a bore

Because it’s murder by numbers, one, two, three
It’s as easy to learn as your ABC
Murder by numbers, one, two, three
It’s as easy to learn as your ABC

Now you can join the ranks of the illustrious
In history’s great dark hall of fame
All our greatest killers were industrious
At least the ones that we all know by name

But you can reach the top of your profession
If you become the leader of the land
For murder is the sport of the elected
And you don’t need to lift a finger of your hand

Because it’s murder by numbers, one, two, three
It’s as easy to learn as your ABC
Murder by numbers, one, two, three
It’s as easy to learn as your A, B, C, D, E

James Arthur Ray:

Within the next week or two, Arizona Law Enforcement will decide what charges, if any will be filed against you. I guess you were right, there is a Law of Gestation. I personally see the Law of Karma at work (cause & effect). Whether you’re charged criminally, you’ve lost your livelihood which by all accounts is your GOD. It’s not a fair trade for the 4 lives and 18 injuries you caused. But for YOU, killing your cash flow is a good start. Happy Thanksgiving James… I’m curious: What were YOU grateful for this morning when your feet hit the floor?

James Arthur Ray: Just A Seminar Schmuck Who Killed People

Why I’m blogging about James Ray. My agenda and angle.

schmuckI personally don’t care about James Arthur Ray or his business. He just happens a Seminar Schmuck who killed people. It’s the seminar industry and coaching business I want reformed.

It’s the day before Thanksgiving in the US and we’re all about gratitude, giving thanks and family. And all of this the day before the biggest shopping day of the year! America is all about making money, spending money and peak experiences. But four families this year will have empty seats at their Thanksgiving Tables. There are countless thousands of others with physical and financial losses caused by the $11,000,000 (billion) seminar industry that aren’t in the headlines.

For the past 2 decades, the seminar industry has exploded. Promising a world of results from making money, love, happiness, business success and getting laid. From 2001 until 2007, I was part of the industry. I signed people up, delivered seminars and sold the next program.

Before 2001, I was a Real Estate Broker in Orange County, CA a very speculative time. The  Real Estate Investment Guru’s were having a field day and any a**hole who owned real property in the OC at the time made money. I got 3 types of calls every week for about 2 years.

  1. I want to refi out my equity to buy real estate
  2. I want to buy your clients house “creatively”
  3. You’re a RE Broker and a deal killer.

I watched people go to a high priced seminar, paid for on credit. Buy a higher priced seminar, on credit, to learn how to make money in real estate. As a RE Broker, I was the bad guy when I shed light on the insanity of over leverage. Of course as a RE Broker, I was the only one that could be sued for giving advice that didn’t work out. The seminar companies were disclaimed “for educational purposes only” with “do not try this at home” disclosures, no licensing and no registration process.

I will be sharing more about what goes on back stage in the seminar industry as we move forward. But here’s what I want to see happen and my specific agenda for picking on poor ole James Arthur Ray and his “Mission”:

  • I want to see seminar companies licensed & regulated.
  • I want to see “coaches” licensed.
  • I want to see accurate results reflected in seminar advertising.
  • I want to see “fair business practices” defined for the seminar industry.
  • I want full disclosure of credentials, certificates, licenses and methods used during seminar programs.

That’s a start. I’m grateful that this is America and I am free to share my opinions about whatever I choose. My final thoughts are this. I have compassion for James Ray as a fellow human being. In my opinion, he’s a man who made a mistake that killed 4 people this year and caused physical harm to many others over the years. He pushed people as hard as he pushes himself, but in doing so people were killed and hurt.

James Ray stepping foot into the sweat tent in Sedona to lead the sweat lodge ceremony, was exactly the same as a person with 2 or 3 drinks getting behind the wheel of a car and driving. Let me explain… Ray and his staff had full knowledge that over the past four years, on a consistent basis, people got sick and needed medical attention as a result of being in their sweat lodge at Spiritual Warrior. Ray and his staff, even though he knew about the danger of his sweat lodge chose to NOT have medical personnel and resources (ie. nurses, EMT’s, ambulances equipped to handle medical emergencies) on the scene. (He had 1 nurse for the 60 attendees.  A much better ratio of medical personnel to attendee would have been 1 to 20, 1 nurse or EMT for every 20 attendees and that is probably too few.)

Bottom line is that Ray and his staff  knew there was a prior history of injuries at the event and specifically at the sweat lodge, knew there would be injuries at the event and especially at the sweat lodge and Ray and his staff chose not to adequately staff or equip medical personal for the event and especially the sweat lodge, where all of the injuries had occurred in prior years. How is that different than when a person, who has been drinking and knows that they are ‘tipsy’ and over the legal blood alcohol limit, gets into their car and drives? They deliberately,  knowingly and willfully get into a car and drive even though society and the LAW says that driving while you’re intoxicated is not tolerated.  Even though it is commonly known that driving while you’re intoxicated kills people. Oh that’s right, the difference is that there are no LAWS governing the seminar industry or James Ray and his staff.    I say James Ray and his staff willfully, deliberately and directly caused the deaths and injuries in Sedona on October 8, 2009. The only difference is Ray was impaired by his ego and arrogance instead of alcohol.

James Arthur Ray’s Hidden Assets

The James Arthur Ray Legal Defense Fund

daisy_duke37Don’t forget James Ray’s most valuable and marketable asset. In fact, it’s such a great asset that most seminar companies would start bidding in the $100,000s to get their hands on it.

JRI’s eMail and Customer List.

Like Denise Milani in this picture, JRI’s assets are in plain sight. JRI’s marketing was conducted via email. I’d guesstimate James Ray’s double opt-in list at about 75,000+/-, which ain’t too shabby. Now you may be expecting James Ray to be packing something bigger…

Oh, James I thought it would be bigger… but honey, I used  steroids. I’m just sayin…

Many people saw instantly that James Ray was only about the money and they would have unsubscribed from his email list immediately.

In the world of email lists, a double opt-in list over 50,000 of ready to buy customers, is an awesome asset and worth some serious coinage to people wanting to be the next James Ray type  “seminar guru”… Every day the JRI list sits unused, it’s value decreases. I vote we put that sucker up on eBay and use the money to start the James Arthur Ray Legal Defense Fund. I’m betting the Anti-Defamation League won’t be making a contribution, but I’m sure they’d pass the hat for poor ole James Ray at the Transformational Leadership Council. Pass the hat my ass, let’s hold the auction for JRI’s assets at the TLC conference in January.

Oprah Winfrey, James Arthur Ray & Expiring Dreams

If your like 100s of people that I know personally with a dream to be on “Oprah”. Your dream just got an expiration date. It looks and feels like Oprah is taking her show to cable in 2011. This is an excellent business move and promises to generate higher revenues.

oprah-tom-cruiseI personally know 100s of people with a big fat picture of Oprah right in the middle of their “vision board”. Oprah’s picture is there to “attract” them a spot on Oprah’s couch for instant Oprahfication to launch their project into the stratosphere of overnight success stories – Just like the Secret.

After James Arthur Ray received his Oprahfication for appearing in The Secret, his live selling seminars went from 10 to 15 in attendance to 700+, over night. This according to Dr. Gordon Ray. While some people want Oprah to have some responsibility for the 3 deaths caused by James “Death” Ray, I don’t see that. Oprah is an entertainer. Her show is entertainment. Very big business, but still entertainment. The problem with being human is that once we start getting successful, most of us stop doing and practicing what got us to be successful in the first place. In my opinion that’s what James Ray did.

Sweat Lodge DeathsI have no doubt that James Arthur Ray used everything that he talked about in his books and seminars to get him in the Secret, on Oprah and Larry King Live. But he stopped practicing what he was preaching and the result is 3 dead in Sedona and 1 dead in San Diego.

Now, if you want to be on Oprah, you have a deadline or a “by when”. It’s said that the only difference in a result and bullsh*t is by when. Oprah’s syndicated show is ending so you now have a by when. You can write that book, make that movie and do what it is that you need to do to get on Oprah and receive your instant Oprahfication!

Also, you will want to receive your Oprahfication before 2012 and the end of the Mayan Calendar… Just in case!

I’d Bet The Farm That James Arthur Ray Has Laid Off His Staff

This post is awkward for me because no one asked for “my intuitive insight” and I’m conveying this in a public forum and not a confidential consultation. (When I work with business owners & entrepreneurs as an “Intuitive Business Consultant” it’s always confidential and specifically for their benefit. In this case, I am my own client and choosing to share my intuitive insights on on website.)

My intuition keeps telling me that James Arthur Ray laid off his Carlsbad staff, but I have no way to physically confirm the information.

On Wednesday last, I posted about Megan Fredrickson making changes to her LinkedIn profile and speculated that she may be “jumping ship” either by necessity or choice. Since that post, my every intuitive inkling leads me to believe that JRI has laid off their staff. I personally would bet the farm on it. It’s my WABIG (wild ass, but intuitive guess) that most or all of JRI’s staff was let go early this week. My hunch is Ray may have kept Megan & Josh Fredrickson on the payroll to hold down what’s left of Fort JRI.

I intuitively know this from pondering the question: Why would Megan Fredirckson change her LinkedIn Profile?

During the past 20+ years I’ve practiced and mastered my Intuition. Which I combine with 25+ years of business experience to provide tangible business strategies and results for my clients. People hire me as an intuitive business consultant for specific answers to specific problems. Typically they already know the answer, but don’t like what they know. So they’ll consult me for confirmation and the hope that I see something they can’t see. I get intuitive insights about the issue which we’ll use to create specific business strategies and actions to get the results they want.

What I do isn’t unique. We all can learn to quiet our minds (quiet the ‘chattering monkey‘ between our ears) and become aware of many things. Intuitive information is impersonal but most people take everything personally which causes causes their problems. Here are some things to remember:

  • The future is not set in stone. With enough time, YOU can change your future.
  • Intuitive information is specific to you and for you.
  • Intuitive Insights are valid at the moment they are realized.
  • You are always free choose.

About my business intuition and intuitive business consultations, I find it difficult to tell the world that I’m “intuitive“. Intuition is the domain of women (intuitive consultants are typically female). After all, it’s called Women’s Intuition not Bald Guy’s Intuition.

Each one of us has everything that we need for happiness & success within our hearts and within our own knowing, if we choose to listen. I simply help people hear what that voice is saying, until that can hear and trust it for themselves.

Is James Arthur Ray’s Dir of “Ooops” Jumping Ship?

Yes I know that I called Megan Fredrickson the Director of “Ooops” at JRI. And yes, I know that her real title is Director of Operations. But it seems that one of her main accountabilities is handling the “Oooops” moments at JRI. I bet Megan is finding out that it’s a lot easier to cover up 1 dead customer dressed as a homeless person than 3 dead and 19 injured when you have 30 other witnesses… Ya Think?

Anyway, it seems that at sometime within the past few days Megan has updated her LinkedIn Profile and interests to include “Career Opportunities”. (One of the complaints about LinkedIn is that they are too transparent and any yahoo can look at your profile.) ;-) So it seems.

I guess that Megan’s profile could mean that I can contact her about “career opportunities” at JRI, but I don’t think that James Ray is adding staff right now, except for lawyers, private investigators and spin doctors. And, I imagine James is hiring these people directly and not through his Director of Ops.

Megan is also interested in “expertise requests” – now this is very interesting. Expertise about what? Oh yes, if you have an “Oooops” call her and if there aren’t too many witnesses, she can help you cover it up. Or maybe Megan’s expertise is in “How NOT to do things the first 2.5 weeks after your Boss kills 3 people in a sweat tent”.

Is Megan updating her LinkedIn profile a sign that JRI is about to close the doors (a good way to avoid giving refunds to customers) or has Megan read the writing on the Sweat Tent wall and preparing for the inevitable? Hmmmm, it may be that she’s tired of the way her boss and guru are doing business.